Why celebrities divorce so often – Part 15

One reason for why Hollywood couples divorce is the time these stars spend apart. When an actor is in a film, they can sometimes spend months on location, away from their significant other. The same with musicians who are on tour. Some say, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”, but that’s not always the case. It is especially difficult when you are away from your husband or wife for an extended period of time, and you’re working closely with someone else. There’s a need for companionship and many actors are getting that companionship from their co-stars.

Another reason why Hollywood couples divorce is competition. I would think that being married to an entertainer, if you’re an entertainer yourself, would be a challenge. This would most likely be the case if you are struggling with your career, yet you’re significant other is finding success at every corner. I’m sure you would want to be happy about their success, but people tend to have a jealous nature.

It may not be that the divorce rate for Hollywood couples is any higher than it is for non-Hollywood couples, but we hear about Hollywood couples. These couples are in the limelight, and unfortunately for them, struggles in their personal life is going to make headline news.

Should the papers be allowed to invade the privacy of celebrities – Part 2

Everyone should be entitled to a private life – even celebrities. I do not understand why some feel they are entitled to know everything about a celebrity’s life simply because they chose to be an actor or singer. Some may argue, “well, they knew what they were getting into” but my point is – should they have to “get into” this circus simply because they are a celebrity. They are not publicly elected officials where we may need to know whether their publicly stated convictions coincide with how they behave in “real life” but celebrities are just famous for the work they do on stage or film! So what!

Are our lives really so boring and unstimulated that we need to know the “dirt” on all the latest celebrity gossip? If so, shouldn’t we all maybe work a little harder at enhancing our own lives and resolving our own issues rather than focusing on a celebrity’s? Being a “public” person only means you WORK in the public – not LIVE in the public. Or so it should be! A lot of people work for the public such as teachers, policemen, crown corporation employees, etc. but we would not consider invading their privacy because we have been taught to show more respect. Celebrities only work requirement is to entertain their viewers. It is not their job to provide fodder for the gossip mill. Their private lives should remain private! It is not our business to know who is divorcing whom or who has a problem with drug and alcohol! Look around you. I’m sure you know plenty of people in your own circle of living where these same problems exist among friends and co-workers. Isn’t it better to spend our energy supporting and helping them? Shouldn’t they be our focus rather than celebrities?

On the internet, I’ve seen this growing obsession with Mary Kate Olsen and her alleged problem with eating disorders. I have seen young people write to her on message boards encouraging her and showing support. That in itself is well-intentioned but misguided. Children and teens should be taught that these celebrities have a huge entourage of friends, family and co-workers that are more than willing to help them. They also have huge sums of money with which to seek any help that is required. Get well wishes are better expressed to those we actually KNOW who are suffering. One young girl remarkably gave her full name, address and phone number to Mary-Kate Olsen on a message board asking her to call her if she needed to talk. How deluded are we when it comes to our (so-called) relationship with celebrities? It is reaching ridiculous proportions. By the way, I called the Internet Service Provider who owned the message board asking them to remove this personal information. I also then called the girl’s parents and asked them to have a talk with her daughter.

Let’s live and let live. We have all had embarrassing moments. We have all done stupid things in our lives which we deeply regret. Can you imagine if all of our faults and failings were publicized world-wide and critiqued? I think we might exercise a little self-control when it comes to our own curiosity about celebrities and demonstrate more compassion for those who have to walk this walk every day of their lives.

They entertain us through their movies, shows and songs. Let’s just appreciate it and leave it at that!

Should the papers be allowed to invade the privacy of celebrities

Honestly the public is exposing to much about celebrities. It seems to me like a celebrity cannot live a normal life outside of work, because there is always someone behind a bush or behind a car waiting to snap a picture to have something to talk about. And the talk is usually absurd and untrue.

Celebrities don’t live a life of happiness in which they thought would happen when making it big, they live the life magazines and publishers make for them. Most people get the wrong idea about celebrities by reading about them and not taking time to get the true details about the situation at hand.

If a celebrity is seen arguing with there spouse the first thing said in a magazine is usually “On the verge of breakup” or this relationship is on the rocks. Don’t a couple have the right to have a spat without it being said they are splitting up. It’s all talk, and only the people doing it know the true behind what’s really going on.

So magazines should not be so quick to judge just to make a quick penny, because you are not only putting your self in the place to make an assumption but you are talking untrue statements about real people’s lives.

Commentary: Celebrity gossip magazines – Part 6

Celebrity magazines catch our eye as we wait in lines at the store, a task we do not expect the stars to do. Yet, each time I peruse a US Weekly or some other publication, I see pictures of the rich and famous shopping, enjoying sporting events, waiting and driving. These are ordinary activities and I wonder what else goes in the real daily life of a big star?

This is just one question I wish the magazines would cover when interviewing stars. Forget the glamour, makeup, fashions and gossip; I want to know what makes a star tick? What defines the person? What part of the day is their favorite and why?

The public rarely gets the real story behind the wealth and scrutiny of the stars. We see the gorgeous dresses and figures, and we see the drama. Tears, fights, divorces and wars of words continually find a spot on the front covers of celebrity magazines. What is behind the drama and the astonishing sensationalism?

From the curious questions like, what time do they usually get up, to what routines do they follow and why, my mind wants to know. I know they will star in the next big movie or sing an amazing song. We hear that all of the time. What about the person behind the celebrity?

The public could get a feel for the person behind the celebrity if magazines featured whole stories instead of one or two lines about the next big project or a current love interest. People, especially fans, connect with a star when he or she feels real to them. While a full accounting of a star’s life is not required, a connection does require mutual experiences. These may include substance abuse, overcoming confidence issues and how to deal with the pressures of life.

Celebrities are normal people with jobs we view as amazing. Yet, when the day is finished, they are still regular people with fears, hopes, dreams and issues. Just like anyone else, they are human. And if I ever get the chance to interview one, here is a list of questions I hope to ask.

What defines you as a person?

What is your favorite day and why?

How do family concerns affect your job?

Why do you think you can make a difference?

When do you find yourself separated from your real being and that of a star?

Where do you like to go for peace and relaxation?

Who is your favorite celebrity and why?

How can fans learn more about the real person versus the star?

Why should celebrities seek ways for making the world a better place?

Why celebrities divorce so often – Part 4

Well this is a very good question. Why do celebrities divorce so often. In all honestly it`s no more often than an an everyday member of the public. There is just so much more tabloid information pin pointing who has divorced and how much it is all costing.

Celebrity marriages are basically the publics dream. We see two very compatible beautiful people falling in love and all the hardships they suffered to get there are washed away by the romance and happiness of it all. Until little things start being reported in the local and international press. Like one half of the couple seen alone and without a ring on their left hand. Or cuddling another member of the opposite sex. These pictures are being plastered over magazine covers and lies are being printed within.

The press start scrutinizing every tiny insignificant thing that seams out of place. What with the couple trying to deal life as a married couple, their business they are trying to build and other daily hassles of normal life. Constant pictures in the press can embed doubts and worries in the celebrity couples mind. Are their partners cheating on them? where they really seen with an ex getting close in a top club. Along with the pictures and lies, insignificant tiffs that all couple have, get leaked into the press when you are in the spotlight and make it look to the public that a happy couple whose voices got slightly raised one night are in a downward turmoil of destruction.

As couples who are not in the spotlight know, the strains of a marriage and trying to pull everything together, finding a balance with everything and doing the best you can is hard enough without having your failures blown up and put on the front page of a popular magazine.

Celebrities are people to, they just trying to do the best with their lives as much as they can. Yes a few are asking to have their personal lives splashed across everything in sight, but most just want to live a normal life as well a be a good idol for the countless fans they have gained. To put it bluntly, celebrities don`t divorce so often, it`s just, when they do, it is pushed onto the public to judge. There are a great many non celebrity couples who divorce within weeks of getting married that no one is aware of because it`s quite frankly not that interesting to many people.

Understanding why celebrities divorce so often – Part 4

Any given day you can turn your television on or your radio, or you can even log onto the internet and find out that some celebrity couple is thinking about calling it quits. I actually think I figured the problem out, the reasons for the high divorce rate with celebs is2 reasons:

Number 1: its better if you’re married before you make it big because your marriage has a higher success rate of lasting, as oppose to getting married when you have already been big in whatever industry you’re in cause then as we all know everyone gets in your business, especially paparazzi. Lets be real with ourselves do you see them following Samuel Jackson’s wife or Tom hanks wife no because it was prior to them becoming real big. If we take Brittney Spears and Kevin Federline, everywhere you look they were in the news being hounded by the paparazzi anytime they went out to do anything, yes i know they weren’t probably the greatest choice for me to pick those 2 to use as an example, but if they were married before hand I’m sure they would succeed.

Number 2: When to celebs marry each other anytime they go out with the opposite sex the papers tend to read too much into it as oppose to that could be the person’s cousin or any other family member or just a friend. If everyone just mind their own business and stay out of other people marriages everything would be fine. To quote the bible “how can you get the pebble out of my eye when you have a rock in yours”, so basically it’s saying fix your problems first before you try and help me with mine’s.

Another problem is nobody wants to work at marriages anymore, everyone wants the fairytale wedding where they live happily ever after, and to those who want that I have your advice WAKE UP AND GROW UP! You’re an adult now, times have changed from when your parents and my parents got married, same goes for celebs except they think there money is suppose to fix their problems just like most people.

How many times have we heard people say if only I had enough money my marriage would be fine, well open your eyes folks, celebrities have money and look at the problems they have, money doesn’t make a marriage its the heart of the two people. People tend to forget the vows they made on their wedding day, you know the one’s I’m talking about, that’s right quote them with me for better or worse in sickness in health, and till death do us part. In my professional opinion some celebrities marry each other for publicity, maybe they have an album coming out or a movie who knows.

To try and quote the bible again it says a man or woman should only divorce if their spouse is cheating on them, but if you divorce and that’s not the case you are committing adultry, but who ever takes the time to read the bible anymore, if celebrities and even regular people, no actually we are all regular people, they just have more money than you and i that’s it, so if everyone took the time to read the bible there would be a less divorces and if we listened to one another instead of always thinking what we say is right, and that one goes to the ladies because we both know if you didn’t say it its not the right answer, however if we really listened to each other we might actually learn something and what is hurting the other person.

So in closing I would ask all people celebs and non celebs to try and work you problems out without jumping to divorce after 2 months or a year, because just maybe the life you save will be your kid’s.

Celebrity gossip: Paris Hilton & Britney Spears – Part 7

Paris Hilton was released from jail today after just 3 days!

I thought her 40 day sentence was too short as it was, I can not believe she has been let out.

If she wasn’t famous she would of got at least 6 months for her crime.

It is disgusting that the rules are changed for a celebrity.

I feel very upset and angry about this as it just is not fair.

Celebrities should get punished as we would, what is the difference?

They are people just like Me and You, if they can do the crime they should do the time, all of the time!

What will happen if she does it again?

Three days for drink driving and driving without a license! Disgraceful.

Drink driving is very dangerous and the punishment should be a little more than 3 days even if she is a celebrity!

She could of killed someone, and she may well do next time, really what is to stop her from doing it again? Prison? I somehow don’t think that will bother her do You?

Are there any real celebrities on MySpace? – Part 1

Sure, we’ve all floated into the phenomena that is MySpace.com.

By the word Real-do you mean celebrities that are so big, by mentioning their name, you immediately recognize them and are world known? Or “real” in the sense that they are down to earth and in touch with their audience? Real as in does the person behind the pictures and name match?

I know a few of all of these on MySpace.

Do they really have the time to cater to you there? Who knows? Does a personal assistant maybe answer you messages, based on understood knowledge of the celebrity…probably. If I had a personal assistant, they would probably be subjected to answering the tons of fan mail I have. Unfortunately, I have to do all that myself. I don’t mind, except the stuff from Visa. They don’t act like fans, nor do their lawyers.

Real celebs on MySpace include but are not limited to: Dane Cook-who has advertised that it is a big deal that he has so many friends. The truth is, most comics really don’t have many friends. Thus, we can reverse the initial question and ask, how many celebrities on Myspace.com have “real” friends? Ah, that is a bigger and more mysterious question. Really? How many of those 2 billion adds are “real” friends? Would they show up at a celebrity wedding wishing the lucky couple best wishes, or merely want photo ops and autographs? Come to think of it, how many of the friends on YOUR Myspace.com account could be considered “REAL”?

Jon Lovitz is on there…uhm…lots of comics actually.

Maybe the question should be…Are there REALLY any celebrities on MySpace? Or -Are the celebrities on MySpace real? Can celebrities be on MySpace and keep it real? Are two apples and a banana appropriate art class drawing examples for kids under the age of twelve?

MySpace, facebook, youtube. What was the question again? Wow, 2100 characters is a lot…am I there yet? No, ok, what other words of fodder can I possibly cram into such an article that really is a yes or no question and so easily answerable.

Are MySpace celebrities ever going to read this, especially all 2100 plus words? Will they drop off at the 2047 count that I checked earlier, and then had to add all this bologna. Why did I start this? I know better than to ask so many questions in an article that is a question.

Drugs: Are celebrity role models always giving the right image to our children – Part 1

The drug problems of celebrities such as Amy Winehouse and Pete Doherty are continually talked about in the press but yet they continue to win prestigious awards. British athlete Dwain Chambers has been allowed to compete in the upcoming World Indoor Championships despite being previously banned for illegal substances. What sort of message is this sending to our children? ‘Don’t worry about drugs, you’ll still be a winner.’

The news of celebrities taking drugs only seems to glamourise the use of narcotics, perhaps because public figures are not dealt with harshly enough. Just take Amy Winehouse. She gets sent to rehab, let out again seemingly when she wants to and goes to take some more drugs. Doesn’t seem too bad does it? To me, there seems like double standards when it come to celebrities, fame should most definitely not be a ‘get out of jail free card.’ Right now, the message seems to be that if you are rich enough you’ll get away with anything.

If you have the status of a celebrity, you are constantly ignored time and time again by the police. How many times do you hear of top models using and abusing drugs? One name which springs to mind sounds like ‘Gate Toss.’ It is almost like they are laughing and making a mockery of what we call the law. However, the various cosmetics companies still use them to front their campaigns. When you child next asks how models become so slim, are you going to tell them that it’s because of drugs?

I think one of the major problems is that celebrities are able to afford incredibly high profile lawyers to get them out of going to jail. Mr Joe Public can’t unfortunate have such a luxury. If there was just one instance where a ‘role model’, a term I’ll use loosely, was imprisoned, surely it would spot copycat children from following the same path, at least for a bit. Fair enough, these people are adults and have the choice to put whatever they want into their bodies and in the main cover their own expenses when it goes wrong. Who is there though to stop your 17 year old daughter from overdosing when she wants to try it for herself?

One prime example recently is that of Kerry Katona, formely of pop group Atomic Kitten. She was reported to have said that ‘babies can be weened off coke when they are born.’ Any other mother who had been suspected of using drugs or be in and out of rehab like her would have had their kids taken away from them. Not only does she still do television adverts but she has even been given her only show! It is quite disgusting how she appears to be above the law.

At the end of the day, anything that a celebrity does will be impressionable on the youth of society. This is why we are seeing this ‘binge drinking’ culture steadily emerging. Celebrity role models are giving a terrible impression to our children, making it seem that drugs are fine because you’ll get away with it. Granted, it is more often than not the parents who will develop the personality of their children but celebrity role models could try and do a slightly better job of helping them. The law system needs to be reinforced so that there are laws for everyone.

Essays: Self reflection

I AM BEAUTIFUL, SMART, AND IN LOVE

PART I

These are my positive affirmations. Can a woman be happy with herself if she considers herself less than beautiful? Can she be content if she doesn’t see herself as intelligent? Can she feel whole, without feeling love?

The media has a very specific idea of what they consider beautiful. They try to bombard us with these unrealistic ways of life. Young women, more than ever, are suffering from eating disorders. Beauty is not worth dying for.

Thus, I have come to realize, that I can only be beautiful in my own way. I am me, with my dark hair and dark eyebrows. My hair is not naturally straight, and my lips do not naturally form in a pout. I do not weigh less than a leaf, but I do take care of myself. My curves define me; they do not imprison me. They flatter my culture and sexiness. My teeth are not perfectly straight-but they still reveal a warm smile.

It was not always easy to see myself in this light. I have come to a point in my life where I have realized many important aspects of myself. I have to power to make myself happy when I look for the answers within myself. I cannot depend on society or other people, to keep me happy. Although to a degree, the stability if my mood relies on medication-every waking moment I make positive affirmations about myself.

Depression occurs when your reality becomes distorted. How does it get distorted? By reading all those fashion magazines, watching all those celebrities on TV, and believing that plastic surgery, BO-TOX, and lipo-suction, will make you a much happier individual.

PART II

I have always loved to read and write. However, if I had not appreciated my own wits I would have stopped writing a long time ago. Some people are great communicators, very good in debates and very good sales people. I can be a good communicator as well, but I have a greater passion for writing. I never wrote with the intention of allowing others to read my work until now. For the most part, I wrote to help myself. Sometimes it was easier to sort out my thoughts when I wrote them on a journal.

Whenever I was sad due to a breakup, writing was my best therapy. It was the only way I could pour out all the hate and resentment, the nostalgia. Ultimately, my poems and short anecdotes would heal me of my wounds. Some of my work spans years, but the authenticity has not changed. I am very honest with myself, my true feelings. Any doubts I ever had about myself, I wrote

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